Chinese woman would rather be hospitalized than go home without a boyfriend
With aging parents and lower birth rates in China, it's not just young men, but also young women who are feeling enormous pressure to marry. We now have a report about a young Chinese woman who begged her doctor to commit her into a psychiatric ward so that she wouldn't have to go home and face all the relatives who grill her about her dating life and marriage plans.
Twenty-nine old Wang Yan works in finance administration for a private company. She is busy, but she makes a good income. Ever since she broke up with her boyfriend 3 years ago, she's been under pressure from her family to boost her dating life. The other day, she sought help at a mental services clinic in Hankou, Hubei province.
She cried uncontrollably as she recounted her tormenting experiences. The last time she went home, she was at lunch with many elderly relatives who took turns asking her high-pressure questions. She was bombarded with, "Have you met anyone? Why not? Are you setting your standards too high? You won't be able to find anyone when you get older!" That lunch lasted 3 hours, and it was 3 hours of hell for her.
But the hellish experience had only just began. For the next 7 days, she was dragged to matchmaking meetings everyday, and sometimes even 3 meetings in one day. The worst was that those "prospective husbands" were such poor matches, including ill-educated, divorced, or much older men than she. She was too nice to say no to these arranged meetings, but the experiences were so bad that she now even questions her own judgment and feels that she may never be able to find someone who she'll really love.
With the Spring Festival coming up and people going home for family reunions, she knows her family is already arranging more matchmaking meetings for her. She has been so fearful and anxious that she asked the doctor to hospitalize her so that she wouldn't have to go home to be tormented. Although she's showing signs of anxiety, her doctor decided she wasn't quite an official basket case yet, and advised her to stand up for herself to communicate better with her family and be courageous enough to turn down matchmaking arrangements.
What do you think? Should the doctor have granted her wish?